Why The Ring Is So Important in Love.

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The age old custom of going down on one knee and asking the woman to be yours for life is one of the most beautiful, treasured, hoped-for and dreaded moment for the man and the woman.

The man of course has to first choose the ring, buy it and then bring all his courage to life and ask.  The woman has to ponder the question and give her verdict on the request.

But why a ring?

Why not a book?
Why not an ear ring?

Some would say the ring connects to the heart.
Some say it is a sign to the rest of the world that the person now belongs to someone else and hence back off.

maybe we should have developed putting a feather in the headgear as a mark of letting the world know.

But the ring is what envelops the finger.
Just like the one who gave you that ring and just like the love you feel for each other.

The ring has no start and finish.  Love is eternal.

The ring does not get affected by everyday wear, the sun, the rain, the soap, as should your love.

And maybe, you get so accustomed to the ring that one day when you take it off, you feel incomplete. That for me would definitely embody love.

The ring then is the perfect manifestation of true love and the simple act of you letting someone put it on your finger, is a sign of acceptance and the awarding of a right.

The person is now allowed to change you, forever.

happy loving!




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how do you know you are in love?

It started as an innocent question from a friend. she wanted to tease me about my many 'love' relationships.

'you seem to be in love so badly and then in a few months you say you were in love but aren't any more. How the FCUK do you know you are in love?'

I started by the most obvious answers:
when you want to spend every moment with the person
when you feel physical pain when you are away from each other
when you want to share the good news first with them and want to shield them from the bad news
when you feel that everything they do is awesome
when you feel that every thought needs to include them
when you say their name out loud while addressing someone else

and slowly and surely I was talking to myself more than her,

when you feel the world is lonely and the only one giving it company, color, music and any sense of existence is that one person.
when the smile on that face makes the entire universe glow.
when you would want to walk through fire to reach them.

she sat there transfixed. I noticed a tear at the threshold.
she let out a long sigh.

- so what happens?
- what happens?
- yeah, what goes wrong she says

I guess you always remain in love, just that you seem to want different things. you could make the heavens move for that one person only to find out they aren't as heavenly as you thought them to be. that doesn't mean you were never in love with them. it just means there is someone else out there who needs and warrants that love all the more.

and what if it sticks.

then you should hold on to it with dear life and guard it like a mother her baby, coz love like that, true love comes around once every cosmic approval. you are blessed and so is the one you love. then, when you want to do all this for the rest of your life, you know, you know you are in love!