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So you met, liked each other, started going out and suddenly you are no longer 'unattached'.
The pink streak was wonderful. Your partner was all fun, giving, loving, attentive and it felt like the sparks would never die out.
Then suddenly, everything changed.
Well, maybe not suddenly. It may have started with an innocuous comment, a difference of opinion on what is moral/immoral, what is greed and what is self-preservation. It could even be a difference in desires, ambition or drive.
Or the worrisome, a difference in what each one of you wants from the relationship. You may not have realized that he would become so serious about it or maybe you were thinking of the bedroom wall color while he doesn't even know if you guys will keep in touch?
The first thing to do is to acknowledge that there is a difference in wants, desires and needs. Until unless you can acknowledge this, there is no way you will be able to do something about it.
The second thing is to see if there is any common ground that you can find. Can you change a little, can he accommodate. Are both of you or any one of you willing to accept the others desires?
If not, there is very little in terms of success coming your way. If yes, try it out for sometime. Believe you are together for the long haul and then see how each of you react.
If you do come to the conclusion that these are irreconcilable, then you really have to think hard about the future of the relationship.
I do hope it does not come to that.
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The pink streak was wonderful. Your partner was all fun, giving, loving, attentive and it felt like the sparks would never die out.
Then suddenly, everything changed.
Well, maybe not suddenly. It may have started with an innocuous comment, a difference of opinion on what is moral/immoral, what is greed and what is self-preservation. It could even be a difference in desires, ambition or drive.
Or the worrisome, a difference in what each one of you wants from the relationship. You may not have realized that he would become so serious about it or maybe you were thinking of the bedroom wall color while he doesn't even know if you guys will keep in touch?
The first thing to do is to acknowledge that there is a difference in wants, desires and needs. Until unless you can acknowledge this, there is no way you will be able to do something about it.
The second thing is to see if there is any common ground that you can find. Can you change a little, can he accommodate. Are both of you or any one of you willing to accept the others desires?
If not, there is very little in terms of success coming your way. If yes, try it out for sometime. Believe you are together for the long haul and then see how each of you react.
If you do come to the conclusion that these are irreconcilable, then you really have to think hard about the future of the relationship.
I do hope it does not come to that.
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